We all experience negative emotions; it’s what we do with them that matters (Tweet it!). Grenny recommends these four steps:
Own the emotion: Don’t blame anyone else for what you feel; we generate our own emotions, regardless of stimulus.
Name the Story: Recognize if you have cast yourself in the role of victim, villain, or helpless one.
Challenge the Story – Once you identify your self-imposed role you can ask yourself questions that expose it for the fable it is.
Find Your Primal Story – Become aware of habitual scripts that may have dogged you since childhood (e.g. the bullied child) and counter them with opposing messages.
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