How much you aim for authenticity depends on a personality trait called self-monitoring. High self-monitors constantly scan their environment for social cues and adjust their communication. They dislike social awkwardness and want to avoid giving offense. Low self-monitors are guided by their inner states, regardless of circumstances. (In one intriguing study, when a steak was served, high self-monitors tasted it before adding salt, whereas low self-monitors salted it first.)
In the workplace, high self-monitors advance more quickly and earn higher status, in part because they’re more concerned about their reputations. And while that would seem to reward “phonies”, these high self-monitors spend more time discerning what others need and helping them get it. In a comprehensive analysis of 136 studies of more than 23,000 employees, high self-monitors received much higher evaluations and were more likely to rise to leadership.
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