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Disagree More (Without Being Disagreeable)

2/23/2021

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Agreeing with someone is easier than confronting them, and it feels good to be “on the same page.” But conflict-free work environments are virtually non-existent. Disagreement is not only inevitable, but also a normal, healthy part of
relating to others.
Disagreements in the workplace have the potential to lead to better work
outcomes, opportunities to learn, higher job satisfaction, and even improved
relationships born of working through conflicts. Writing in the Harvard Business
Review, Amy Gallo, an HBR contributing editor and author of the HBR Guide to
Dealing with Conflict at Work
, offers advice for those who are reluctant to
disagree:
  • Let go of the need to be liked: Instead of focusing on likeability, focus on respect—both giving and receiving it.
  • Focus on the big picture: Why is your point of view important to the needs of your organization? Thinking of this will purge selfish motives from your disagreement.
  • Don't equate disagreeing with being unkind: Most people are open to hearing a different perspective if you share it thoughtfully and respectfully. Ask yourself: Is there really a risk that you will hurt your coworker’s feelings, or are you projecting your own discomfort?
  • Find a role model and emulate them: Chances are you have a colleague, relative, or friend who does a fairly good job of being straightforward about their thoughts and opinions without ruffling feathers. Observe that person. Do what they do—even if you have to “fake it until you become it.”
Did you express your views the last time you disagreed with someone at
work—and what was the result? To join the conversation, click "comments" above.

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Good Leaders Ask Good Questions

2/16/2021

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Anyone who says they have the answer to every important question is either clueless or lying. So says John Hagel III, founder of Silicon Valley’s Center for the Edge and author of The Journey Beyond Fear. Writing in the Harvard Business Review, Hagel says, “leaders should ask powerful and inspiring questions, convey that they don’t have the answers, and solicit others’ help to find them.”
 
“The kind of questions leaders need to ask,” he adds, “are those that invite people to come together to explore major new opportunities that your organization hasn’t identified yet.” For example: “What is a game-changing opportunity?” or “What are emerging, unmet needs of our customers?” or “How can we customize our services to the specific needs of each client?” Focusing on big opportunities is wise because:

  • They are ambitious, and communicate that you want to take your organization to the next level.

  • They invite collaboration—no single person could possibly come up with a complete solution.

  • They can change the culture by inspiring others to identify opportunities and ask for help when they need it.

  • They’ll reinforce the value of questions and of exploring.
 
“Leaders who ask powerful questions,” concludes Hagel, “have the greatest success in both seizing new opportunities and addressing unexpected challenges —and they build cultures that will carry these benefits into the future.”
 
What questions have you asked that have made a difference in your organization? To join the conversation, click "comments" above.

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Better Than Valentine’s Chocolate: Positive Communication

2/9/2021

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As Valentine’s Day approaches, consider giving your loved ones these gifts—each with more staying power than flowers, cards, or chocolates:  
  1. ​Listen when your impulse is to argue. Listening, a rare and pure gift from the heart, requires us to be quiet long enough to ponder our partner’s message.
  2. Edit accusations that could make your partner feel put down and judged. Instead, describe your feelings. “I feel lonely” has a different ring than, “You’re selfish and unresponsive.”
  3. Acknowledge your role in a problem. Every issue has another side. When we describe how we contributed, even unintentionally, to a problem, we encourage our partner to hear us out. For example, you might say: “When I asked how long your mother was going to stay with us and we got into a tiff, I could have clarified that I enjoy your mother’s company and was asking out of curiosity and not judgment.”
  4. Agree on a solution. Reach an explicit, collaborative agreement about what each of you will do differently in the future.
  5. Follow up on your agreements. Many attempts at resolving conflict end in failure but following up proves your commitment to view conflict resolution as a process rather than a one-shot deal.

As marriage and business partners for over 40 years, we can attest that while confronting issues is never easy, avoidance is worse. And we still endorse chocolate too: It’s good for your heart!
We want to hear: What communication behaviors would you like to change in your relationships this year, and what steps are you taking to do so? To join the conversation, click "comments" above.

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Healing Our Political Divisions, One Conversations at a Time

2/2/2021

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Join our national challenge to chisel away at the political divide that vilifies opposing viewpoints and imperils our country. Starts today, Feb. 2 and ends Feb. 12. Reach out to someone on the "other side" with courage, curiosity, and intention. We'll award a $250 Amazon gift card to our favorite submission.

Step 1: Who
Try: "Hey, Taylor, you're one of the people I care about the most, and whose political beliefs I understand the least. Can we talk one day this week, to better understand each other and hopefully find some shared values?"

Step 2: How
  • Listen first: Making someone feel heard is powerful.
  • Engage with compassion, curiosity, and respect.
  • Avoid past grievances.

Try: "What are current issues you're most passionate about? What experiences helped form your opinions on that?”

Step 3: Share
Try: We agree to:
  • Send each other an opinion piece every 2 weeks which we read and discuss.
  • Explore political differences with civility and without cable news talking points.
  • Discuss emotionally charged topics without damaging our relationship.

Harvest and submit agreements in the comments or here.

Our favorite submission will receive a $250 Amazon gift card.
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