Trapped in continual “doing mode?” You’re not alone. Here’s how to give yourself permission to pause… and think bigger.

So many of us are focused on doing mode — achieving goals and checking items off to-do lists. But better relationships, bigger-picture strategies, and creative thinking all depend on pausing and entering into spacious mode. 

Writing in the Harvard Business Review, Megan Reitz of Oxford University’s Said Business School, and John Higgins, director of research at The Right Conversation, share their research-based tips for making it easier and safer to occasionally switch modes.

• Give yourself permission:  Pausing requires a leap of faith at first, but soon its benefits will become clear.
• Train your mind: A mere 10 minutes of mindfulness practice daily will, over time, help you develop a capacity to pay attention differently.
• Practice guerilla spaciousness:  If your organization is relentlessly promoting doing, be stealthy. Develop small habits that allow you to shift into spacious mode under the radar. Try changing up your environment or scheduling pauses. 
• Ask bigger questions: Pose broader questions to yourself and others, e.g. “What have we not talked about that would help us work together better?”
• Choose good company:  While you cannot choose your work colleagues, spend more time when you can with individuals and groups that help you expand your thought processes and see things in new ways.

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Friendships are so important, they can literally impact life and death…

Romance gets a lot of attention but, according to a growing body of research, friendships are critical to our health and well being. A review of 38 studies found that adult friendships, especially high-quality ones that provide social support and companionship, significantly predict wellness and can protect against mental health issues like anxiety and depression. Those benefits persist across the life span.

Friendships protect to some degree by altering the way we respond to stress. Our blood pressure can lower when we talk to a supportive friend. When we have a friend by our side while completing a tough task, we have less heart rate reactivity than those working alone. Friendships can also change our perspective. In one study, people even judged a hill to be less steep when accompanied by a friend.

Fortunately, research also suggests that friendships can be forged and maintained at any age. Even minimal social interactions can be powerful. So-called “weak ties” -- interactions we have with casual acquaintances -- can boost our health and sustain positivity.  

Isolation during the pandemic proved hard on nearly everyone, but it did focus scientific attention on how important human connection is across all ages and all spheres of life. 

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New Years resolutions have terrible staying power. Here are 3 steps to be more successful this year…

According to Forbes, merely 8 percent of people keep their resolutions twelve months later. (You may have already noticed this happening, just 2 weeks into 2025.) The reasons for broken resolutions go beyond lack of will power. According to Elizabeth Grace Saunders, time management coach and author of How To Invest Your Time Like Money, many people fail to accomplish new goals because they don’t consciously eliminate old activities from their schedule to make room for the new. It’s like “trying to stuff more papers into a file drawer that’s already packed tight.”

If your resolutions involve workplace goals and behaviors, consider the following:

• Evaluate all your work commitments.  The start of a new year marks the perfect time to reevaluate what you’re doing, how you are doing it, and why. Are there routine activities you can drop?
• Reassess your work style. Examine how you accomplish work. Are you using meetings efficiently? Can you have fewer or shorter meetings? Does completing the projects you’re currently working on still make sense? 
• Add new goals strategically. Once you intentionally create space, you can strategically add in the activities that you want in your life. To say “yes” to the new, you must say “no” to some of the old.

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Gratitude has consistently been shown to lower stress, reduce pain, boost immunity, and improve blood pressure and heart function. Here’s how to spread gratitude not just on Thanksgiving…but always.​

We recently released a micro learning video series on how to express gratitude so it sticks, and these tools are easy to learn.  Neuroscientist Glen Fox has spent his entire adult life studying gratitude. “Grateful people tend to recover faster from trauma and injury, have better and closer personal relationships and may even just have improved health overall.” Fox did an experiment using brain-imaging scans to map which circuits in the brain become active when we feel grateful.

“We saw that the participants’ ratings of gratitude correlated with activity in a set of brain regions associated with interpersonal bonding and with relief from stress,” he said. To up your conscious gratitude, Fox suggests keeping a gratitude journal. On a regular basis, write down what you are grateful for, even if those things seem mundane. The positive effect is cumulative so it’s a good idea to make this a habit. You can also write letters of gratitude to those who have helped you along your way. Says Fox, “I think that gratitude can be much more like a muscle, like a trained response or a skill that we can develop over time.”

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Workplace bullying is real…and painful, too often leading to stress, burnout, and worse.  Here are 5 actions to stop it.
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Research from the Workplace Bullying Institute indicates that 30 percent of employees experience workplace bullying at some point, and of those targeted, 67% are at risk of losing their job. 

Bullying goes beyond incivility, writes Professor Jason Walker, a contributor to Forbes.  “It is calculated and deliberately aimed at causing harm.”  Its targets are often highly valued, competent employees who prefer to avoid conflict.  So, what can you do if you are a target?  Walker advises the following actions.

5 Actions To Stop Workplace Bullying:

1. Maintain emotional control:  Avoid reacting to provocation.  Step away, compose yourself, and consciously create your response.
2. De-escalate conflicts: Use respectful language to request the bully stop their behavior.  If things escalate, engage your supervisor.
3. Reach out to colleagues for support:  Confide in trusted co-workers.  They can help you to figure out how to respond to the bully and even serve as witnesses if necessary.
4. Keep records:  Document all details of bullying incidents.  Include time, date, and who was around.
5. Take care of yourself:  Prioritize your mental and emotional well-being.  Engage in activities that help you reduce stress. 

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