Handling Personal Questions at Work

​The social component of any new job is important. And research shows that building camaraderie at work can promote health and harmony. However, it can be tricky to navigate personal questions from new co-workers. Writing in The New York Times Allie Volpe notes that even “seemingly innocuous icebreakers, can have an impact on how your colleagues perceive you.” Some advice from experts:

• Avoid gossip: If someone asks how you feel about a co-worker, confine your answer to the professional and be aware that sharing downside comments can put you in the danger zone.  (Tweet it!)

• Answering questions about your age. Although questions like “When did you graduate?” offer a backdoor, it’s always an option to stress your experience with specifics.

• Be careful with social media: If a co-worker asks to connect, remember some personal updates you share with close friends on Facebook or Instagram may not be office-appropriate. Politely suggest colleagues connect with you on LinkedIn…or keep your personal social media updates work friendly. 

• Socialize if invited. If possible, say yes if asked to join in for happy hour or a group lunch. If you don’t, such invitations may dry up.

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