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How to Accept a Compliment

1/29/2019

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Being praised for a job well done can boost our brain with a feel-good surge and help us accomplish more (https://bit.ly/2DsinLa). But for many of us, accepting a compliment can feel awkward.
 
Research shows that we tend to dwell on failures more than compliments (https://bit.ly/2BVmxIk). Perhaps there is survival value in this, says Dr Kristin Neff, an educational psychologist at the University of Texas, Austin. According to Dr. Neff, “ancestors who were negative worrywarts were more likely to survive.” Compounding our squeamishness in the face of compliments is: 1) we don't want to seem like we’re egotistical or arrogant; and 2) our skills may come so naturally to us that we underestimate their value. (Tweet it!)
 
But compliments can be rich sources of information, giving us valuable feedback, and they have the capacity to create stronger relationships. So how can we accept complements graciously? Keep it short and positive with no self-deprecating comments. Try responses like: “Thank you, I’m glad you said that,” or “I appreciate your noticing,” or “Thanks for letting me know.” If you’re still afraid of looking swellheaded, or if you’re genuinely interested in more input, ask a follow-up question to show you value the compliment giver’s opinion and acknowledge there’s always room for improvement (https://nyti.ms/2rwoWnb),
 

How did you respond the last time someone paid you a compliment?  Did you try to deflect it, or did you accept it? Were you successful, and how did you do it? To join the conversation, click "comments" above.
 
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Simon Shaw
1/29/2019 09:49:18 am

Thanks for this post. Sometimes the person giving you the compliment will have to 'pluck up the courage' to approach you, especially if they don't know you well, or they are apprehensive about verbal interactions. You have to be respectful in the way you respond to a compliment.

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susan
1/31/2019 05:03:41 am

So agree with you Simon! Responding to compliments does have a big impact on how the person who gave the compliment ends up feeling. What a better world it would be if this happened more often. Thanks for sharing your insights with our community.

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Ofelia
1/31/2019 09:54:58 am

I often find myself deflecting praise when I am recognized for small tasks that seem insignificant. I will practice saying thank you and leaving it at that.

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