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Sexual Harassment Apology...A New Sub-Genre

12/5/2017

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It’s hard to apologize because “human beings are wired for defensiveness.” So says psychologist Harriet Lerner, author of the new book Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts.

In a recent NPR interview, Lerner addressed that special subgenre of apology—the sexual harassment apology—so ubiquitous of late. The rules for this kind of mea culpa, she says, are essentially the same as for any good apology.
 
  • The wrongdoer should carry some of the pain, (e.g. “I will be struggling — perhaps forever — because of the harm I've caused women who trusted me to mentor and help them.”)
  • Do not ask for forgiveness. Lerner stresses that nothing should be asked of those who were harmed.
  • Avoid qualifier words like “if” or “might” (e.g. “I’m so sorry if you felt hurt by what I did.”)
 
Lerner says that good apologies are important but they're not enough.
Apologies do not excuse perpetrators from the consequences of their actions (Tweet it!).

 
Have you ever been on the receiving end of a sexual harassment apology? How did you feel? If you have not, what do you believe such an apology should include? To join the conversation, click "comments" on our Community of Practice Forum.

If you would like to read more about creating a habit around masterful communication, check out our book: Be Quiet, Be Heard: The Paradox of Persuasion.

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ava
12/5/2017 10:12:18 am

Thank you. This is so helpful and timely. I'll share it!!!

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susan
12/5/2017 10:24:16 am

So happy you found it useful! When we read the research it really resonated with us as well. Thanks for staying connected with our community Ava.

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